Savannah is passionate about helping engaged and married couples struggling with trust, communication, sexual intimacy, intimacy anorexia, sexual addiction, and betrayal trauma achieve the healthy, connected, and loving marriage they’ve always dreamed of.
The Power Of Belief
The most important question in recovery,Reader, is do you believe that you can recover?
The success stories I know of - from clients and others - are those who truly believe and don't give up when the going gets tough.
So, as the recovering addict, do you believe you can recover, long-term?
As the betrayed partner, do you believe your recovering addicted partner can recover, long-term?
Do either of you believe that the relationship/marriage can recover?
Where do you stand in terms of your confidence in the future you wish to build?
Some important questions to reflect on.
I can tell you from experience, the clients who make it 5+ years clean are the ones who believe they can achieve it.
The marriages that last are the ones where the betrayed partner believed in their partner, even during the worst lows of recovery, where the recovering addict never gave up, and was able to realize they are worthy of love.
Whether you're in this recovery as a couple or whether you've parted ways, do you believe in yourself to build a new healthy life for yourself?
Because I can believe in you (and your partner) all day long, your therapist can believe, your personal trainer, your support group... you name it.
We ALL can believe in you, but what truly matters is whether you believe in yourself and are willing to put in the effort.
No one ever recovered without failure.
Let me repeat that.
Success doesn't come without many failed attempts.
Success comes to those who persevere and do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.
Tell me, Reader, what do you need most right now for where you're at in your recovery journey?
Email me back, I'd love to know!
Plus if I have any resources for that current need, I'll send them your way.
Warm regards,
Savvy
P.S. if you would like to become a private client this Fall/Winter, you can fill out a request for an application here.
Savvy Esposito
Savannah is passionate about helping engaged and married couples struggling with trust, communication, sexual intimacy, intimacy anorexia, sexual addiction, and betrayal trauma achieve the healthy, connected, and loving marriage they’ve always dreamed of.
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